today i watched Anjakan Paradigma ---dont be surprised, itu first time aku tgk rancangan tu. and the topic was 'bila habis jodoh'
what caught my attention was the fact about how men normally want/love to maintain their bujang-attitude even after they are married.
and how less they show their appreciation to their wife. ini memang perangai most malays kan??kan? very little PDA (public display of affection). kadang2 tak payah tunggu public, tak public pun takde gak. well, the rest i leave it to your own interpretation sebab topic ni agak intimate (:-p)
about being bujang tu, dia elaborate, lelaki wpun dah kawen would still love to hang out minum teh tarik with friends at odd hours. pegi main bola ke badminton ke ---at odd hours i.e. kul 11 malam ke balik pagi. and he explained that bila dah berkeluarga, seeloknya tak payah la sebab malam spend it with anak bini. siang dah la spend ngan kawan2. ada lak kes yang bini nak follow tapi husband lak tak kasik, suh duk umah je. ooo pandai lak dia suh orang duk umah.
and come to think of it, cuba kalau kita, wives, ada the same attitude, lepas tu sapa duk umah? sapa jaga anak?
kalau nak dipikirkan dgn lebuh panjang n mengarut... this bujang attitude la yg membuat kan lelaki nak kawin lain.betul tak? ntah la....
but marriage is both ways, skrg ni bukan lelaki je dah pandai wat perangai, perempuan pun ada jugak. yang penting agama dlm diri kita yang akan menunjukkan kita jalan yang benar.
toleransi... sabar... and understanding... itu gak yang parents kita been practicing, kan?
tanpa agama, manusia is nothing :D
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